BURY YOUR LOVED ONES WITH GREAT DIGNITY - NOT WITH GREAT DEBT

A CHRISTIAN APPROACH TO FUNERALS

This pamphlet has been produced to help and guide you to plan a dignified funeral within your family's financial means. We come from different cultural and family practices, so this pamphlet may seem naive or even irrelevant to some. But the Church's job is to preach the Good News. Part of this is to be involved in the ordinary aspects of people's daily lives, including funerals.

The reality is that these days people are dying younger and in great numbers. Many funerals take place each week, and often a single family can suffer repeated bereavements. So the Church's task is to offer guidelines o funeral matters. This pamphlet comes with love and good will to all the people of God in this Diocese, in the hope that you will find it helpful.

PREPARATION

Ecclesiastes 7:2 tells us that death is the destiny of all human beings. We all need to prepare for death. But how should we do that? Here are some practical ideas:

Life policies are more expensive than funeral schemes, so choose wisely.

Payouts from life policies normally cover the funeral costs and still leave some money behind. Payouts from funeral and bereavement schemes normally cover funeral costs only.

WHAT TO DO WHEN A DEATH HAS OCCURRED

Death is a very painful and emotional experience. People who are directly faced with death may be traumatized by the event and may not be able to think straight and make rational decisions. This is the time when much support and great understanding should be exercised by those close to the bereaved. Here is what you will need to do at this time.

PLANNING THE FUNERAL

It is very important to consult with your priest or church leaders to make arrangements concerning:

It is very important to arrange these details with the church before going to the funeral directors.

Inform the funeral directors of the church arrangements.

If there is no insurance policy or funeral scheme, ask for advice from funeral directors about cost-effective services.

If no financial help is available to you, contact the local Department of Social Welfare to see if they can help.

MINIMIZING THE COSTS

In this Diocese, we encourage all to avoid funerals that are too expensive.

Minimizing costs does not mean giving your loved one a pauper's funeral.

It does not mean that the deceased was not loved. It also does not mean that the family is displayed its poverty in public. This is all about acting in a responsible manner. It is about simplicity and humility.

People often say that they want to give their deceased a great send-off. This is god - but let it be a send-off that has dignity, and that will not leave great debt and hunger when the whole event is over. A funeral is a solemn occasion, not an extravaganza.

Here are some ways to cut the costs of funerals.

The Church is not just paying lip service to this issue. This long-standing surplice fee for funerals was abolished at the 2002 Diocesan Synod. (This does not, of course, stop people from giving a thank-offering to the person leading the service.) So you are encouraged to do all in your power to minimize funeral costs.

FUNERALS AND CULTURE

The practice in African culture of slaughtering a beast for funeral ceremonies, was a long-standing tradition. Nothing was wasted of that slaughtered beast. The meat was prepared for mourners, people who had travelled long distances on foot or horse cart to attend the funeral. The skin of the beast was then used as a blanket to wrap the deceased as s / he was laid to rest.

FUNERALS AND CHRISTIANS

The Old Testament tells us that people were buried on the day that they died. Some were embalmed for burials. In New Testament times, the deceased were wrapped in linen for burial. The graves of those days were different from ours: they were like small compartments where the deceased were peacefully and respectfully laid to rest. There was nothing extravagant about the funeral ceremonies performed in those days. Things were still done in an orderly and dignified manner.

FUNERALS TODAY

We don't live in the Iron Age or the Stone Age. Much in life has changed for the better.

Resolution No. 5 of Diocesan Synod, June 2002

''That this Synod agree in the name of Christ vehemently to oppose extravagant funerals.''



Technology makes great strides in improving the life of human beings. We have refrigerated morgues, we have wood and steel coffins, and there is also the option of cremation. Having said all this, death itself has not changed. Death is still death, people still die and need to be buried. Unfortunately in this era death seems to be coming hard and fast on our generation. Let our strengths and resources not be channelled towards burial ceremonies. Surely there is more to life than funerals.

Part of the funeral ceremony nowadays is the practice of unveiling the tombstone at the same time. This is good for the family because then they won't need to dig deep for cash to perform another ceremony. This is only encouraged as long as the family won't be left with a huge debt to service. An extravagant funeral plus an expensive tombstone do not help the dead to rest in peace. Dying in the Lord Jesus Christ is what really gives great peace to the dead - and also to the living.

MORE SUGGESTIONS FOR CURBING FUNERAL COSTS

A chipboard coffin which costs between R400 and R800 does the same work as oak or steel coffins that range from R5 000 to R8 000 or more. Some people still cover coffins with the skin of a slaughtered beast or a new blanket - so why incur extra expense for the same thing?

Whether a coffin is transported in a traditional hearse or in a limousine or an air plane, it will eventually reach its destination. Choose the cheaper option.

A huge slice of peoples' income in many homes goes to providing basic food. With no spare money for entertainment, that is how expensive food is these days. There is no need to entertain mourners with a big feast.

A follow-up party (''after tears'', as it is called) can extinguish the solemnity of a funeral and turn it into a great extravaganza.

Some people are dressed up in new clothes before being put in the coffin.

What a shame this is - especially if the dead person never knew what it felt like to wear a suit or even to put on decent shoes while s / he was still alive!

THE CHURCH'S VISIBLE PROTEST AGAINST EXTRAVAGANT FUNERALS

Maybe we need to return to one of our church's many rich and sacred traditions: covering coffins with a Pall during the funeral service in the church. Some of our churches still practice this tradition, and they are commended for that. The use of a Pall hides any obvious disparity between poorer and wealthier families when several funerals take place at the same time, and saves embarrassment.

We are living in times of great poverty and unemployment, with the scourge of disease and many other negative things facing us. These are the challenges facing us. We must stand up against these evils and not run away from them. We have been blessed with the gift of the Holy Spirit, the mighty power of God to face up to any evil, to speak out against any malady that affects the lives of God's people.

This leaflet is one way in which we try to show care for God's people, to intervene in situations where things seem to be causing great hardship.

This article was compiled by The Revd Dintoe Letloenyane, (Diocese of Bloemfontein (CPSA) and edited and produced by Cyril Pink Frog DTP, Bloemfontein. Your comments and contributions will be greatly appreciated. Please send them to the Bishop's office,

P O Box 411, Bloemfontein, 9300, or e-mail to: bishoppatrick@global.co.za.

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